Finally, after months (or in some cases, years!) of working your way through the process of separation, dividing your property and debt, and divorce, you take a deep breath, and sigh. But for many, that sigh is not one of relief, but rather one that arises out of a sense of loneliness and uncertainty. You are not sure which ‘friends,’ if any, will be receptive to that invitation to joint you for lunch, or dinner, or even for a shopping excursion. After all, your ‘friends” really had nothing to do with the circumstances of your divorce. So, things should not have changed at all, right?
But things do change, even under the best of circumstances. Those’ friends’ may feel that, by being seen in your local community having that routine lunch with you, they are somehow ‘taking sides,” or being supportive of you, and unsupportive of your former spouse. And they certainly don’t want to do that. After all, they are ‘neutral’ in your issues and the resolution of them. So, your sense of loneliness intensifies, and at times, can seem almost overwhelming. But what are you to do about all of this? How do you adjust your life to reconnect with those whom you have known for years? How do you meet new friends, with interests that you might share with them?